Once you’ve got a few successes (and scars) under your belt, a funny thing happens: the startup world starts to feel a bit…lonely. Typical networking events don’t cut it anymore, and your old business school buddies just don’t get the specific challenges you face. So, where do you turn for support, advice, and those “you’re not crazy, I’ve been there” conversations?
Why You Need a Tribe (Beyond the Obvious)
- The BS Filter: We all need people who call us out on bad ideas, or gently challenge blind spots we’ve developed from too much success.
- Accelerated Learning: Why reinvent the wheel? A trusted peer group lets you shortcut the painful trial-and-error process on many founder problems.
- Emotional Safe Space: Venturing is a rollercoaster. Having people who truly understand those highs and lows is crucial for mental health.
- Access to Hidden Opportunities: Your tribe knows about the promising startup that hasn’t publicly launched fundraising, the potential partnership deal, etc.
How to Find Your People
- Think “Micro-Communities”: Forget generic founder orgs. Seek out groups with shared background (ex-fintech founders), stage focus (scaling past Series B), or even a shared interest (founders who are also parents).
- Online Isn’t Always the Answer: High-value networks often involve in-person meetups, at least occasionally. Is there a founder retreat, or even a local coffee group worth cultivating?
- Be a Giver, Not Just a Taker: Mentorship is a two-way street. What unique expertise or connections can YOU offer to the group? This is how you build real trust.
- Chemistry Matters: Do you actually like these people? Business relationships are still relationships. If you don’t look forward to the interactions, it won’t last.
A Note on “Big Name” Mentors
Yes, getting advice from a famous founder sounds cool. But often, it’s far more valuable to learn from someone a few steps ahead of YOU, as their problems are more relatable.
Where have you found your most valuable founder connections? Let’s crowdsource some hidden gems for others in the comments!
